Normally, I am that person that never bothers with new year’s resolutions; I find them dull, clichéd and repetitive. Why only set goals at new year? If something needs changing, then change it. But the start of this year was different. I had a rollercoaster year in 2015, the first 7-8 months amazing, and the last 3 months terrible. I’m not sure I want to go into details yet, but I basically needed to say goodbye to 2015 with a completely fresh start.
So I set some goals for 2016. I set out on doing the typical get fit, get rich, be nicer, blah blah bullshit (like it’s a nice idea but those are 5 and 10 year goals, not new year’s resolutions).
And here I am, at the end of January, no different; no better and certainly no leaner than I was a month ago. Here I am, a massive failure – not achieving any of my goals, and yet I don’t feel like a failure at all. In fact, all I’ve done is remind myself why I don’t do the new year, new me bullshit. Let me explain it in detail.
BIG, SHINY NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS NEVER WORK
Stop setting unachievable goals. I’m all for aiming high, but don’t make a resolution that you can’t observe progress with. Like I said before, some resolutions are more like bloody life-plans! Instead, by creating small, incremental changes, you can observe the difference in your life and feel satisfied from it. By doing this, I find I can set targets and see what’s working and what’s not without feeling down on myself.
TOO MUCH IS TOO MUCH
I’m not superwoman, and nor are you. And we don’t have to be. Setting 28 new year’s resolutions may come across as inspiring, but really it’s unrealistic. By all means, have 28 ideas in mind and in your future plans, but focus on one thing at a time. I find that when I strategise like this, I can adapt better and keep something up whilst changing something else – for example instead of going crazy into a new fitness and food regime (when I’ve also just started full-time work and blogging) start with your meal plan, then add the exercise once your eating plan becomes routine and so on. Works way better and actually creates a lifestyle change.
FUCK DRY JANUARY
If you don’t want to quit drinking for a month, then don’t. If you don’t want to drink for a month, then don’t. I don’t care and I can’t see why going completely teetotal for 1 month a year of of any real use to the majority of people. Limit yourself, sure, but don’t set crazy goals like no alcohol. I haven’t even seen a Friday night since I turned 18 (jk). While I think it’s great that people try to raise money for charity by doing something as admirable as not drinking, I would much rather donate for somebody that is running a marathon, climbing a mountain or I don’t know, volunteering in a poverty stricken school. Don’t be a sheep. Only if you have a questionable relationship with alcohol do I support this.
DON’T BE PRESSURED
This is either to make huge changes, or in fact to jump on the ‘let’s ridicule everyone that makes new year’s resolutions’. You do what works for you. SO if you disagree with everything I’ve written – that’s cool! We have different methods and different things suit us. Of course, I am sarcastic so take my words with a pinch of salt. It’s the same with everything else. Once again, don’t be a damn sheep. I saw so many people this year posting status’ like ‘OMG let’s get ready for all the new year new me crap’ and yet last year they were writing lists about all the things they would change. Because social media. Do what you want 😉
NEW YEAR, OLD ME?
Because of my shite last quarter of 2015, all I really wanted was new year, old me. I wanted to be myself again. I’m still not there yet, but I’m getting there. There’s nothing wrong with liking who you are, or who you were. Love yourself – Namaste biatch 😉
So what I really learnt in January (other than the fact that I’m useless at setting resolutions because it’s more like my dream wishlist – and I’m still pretty similar to who I was in December
a greedy almost alcoholic) is that the point of a resolution is not to make yourself feel worse, it’s to improve yourself or make some changes. While writing that and then reading it back makes me think ‘alright captain obvious’, sometimes it’s worth pointing out what’s right in front of you, you can’t always see it when you’re blinded by yours and everybody else’s shiny new years bullshit plans.
A bit of a ranty post, how have you been doing with your new year’s resolutions? Or did you ditch them like me? Let me know in the comments!